Monday, December 27, 2010


With the new year just around the corner, it’s no doubt time to take stock of the blessings in your life, make resolutions, and of course, tie up any loose ends that may be holding you back a little (or a lot, depending on how loose those ends really are).

Whether it be a project you’ve been working on but never finished or a relationship that ended with some unanswered questions or things left unsaid, there’s something about the end of the year that forces us to take action and get things done. There’s probably a reason why December is Procrastination Awareness Month – we all want to push things to the last possible moment!

If you find yourself looking for answers you never got or the need to say things to that someone in your past, might I recommend the following:

1. Have a plan. Write your thoughts and questions down, talk them over with a friend (if you’re comfortable), and be prepared for the answers or response, whether you like what is said or not.

2. Decide if you are comfortable having the conversation in person or over the phone. E-mail and text should be a last resort, but if needed, be careful with the words you use because your tone and feeling may not translate the way it would if you spoke to the person.

3. Be sincere. Remember, this is for your benefit – the closure you’ve been seeking. Don’t mask your feelings or emotions and be yourself. If you want to cry, cry. If you want to laugh, laugh. If you want to throw something at the other person (like your fist to their face), well...maybe don't do that! :)

No matter what your situation, closure can bring you one step closer to a happy, healthy future. And remember, “If one door opens to another door closed, I hope you keep on walkin' till you find the window.” Those inspiring words compliments of Rascal Flatts.

Here’s to closing the door on one year and opening the door to another. Cheers friends!

1 comment:

  1. Great advice. Have you developed your plan? :-)